Planning a baby shower is exciting—but it can also come with lots of questions about what’s appropriate and expected. Who should host? When should it happen? What goes on the registry? Don’t worry—we’ve got you covered.
This guide answers the most common baby shower etiquette questions so you can plan (or attend) with confidence, while making the celebration joyful for the parents-to-be and guests.
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What Is a Baby Shower?
A baby shower is a celebration where friends and family come together to honor the parents-to-be and the new baby on the way. It’s a time to share love, laughter, and thoughtful gifts that help the family prepare for their next chapter.
What Happens at a Baby Shower?
Expect fun, food, and plenty of love! A baby shower typically includes:
Games & activities to keep guests entertained
Food & drinks suited to the time of day
Gift opening where the parents-to-be are “showered” with presents
Special moments filled with laughter, advice, and happy tears
Who Plans a Baby Shower?
Traditionally, a close friend or family member hosts, but today’s showers are more flexible. Parents sometimes co-host, siblings often take the lead, or even multiple friends join together to plan the event. Virtual baby showers are also increasingly common for long-distance families.
Which Month Should the Baby Shower Be Held?
The sweet spot is four to six weeks before the due date. This ensures the pregnancy is far enough along for a celebration, but not so close to delivery that scheduling becomes stressful.
When Should You Start Planning?
Begin planning about five to seven weeks before the shower date. This gives you time to choose a venue, send invitations, organize the menu, and shop for décor. Want a stress-free planning flow? Use our [Baby Shower Planning Checklist] for step-by-step guidance.
Should You Have a Baby Shower for a Second Pregnancy?
Yes! Every baby deserves to be celebrated. For second (or third!) pregnancies, many families choose a “baby sprinkle”—a smaller, more casual version of a traditional shower. Sprinkles often focus on essentials like diapers, clothing, or keepsakes rather than big-ticket items.
What Do You Serve at a Baby Shower?
The menu should match the timing and vibe of the shower:
Brunch showers: Think pastries, fruit platters, quiches, and coffee
Afternoon tea: Light finger sandwiches, scones, and mocktails
Evening gatherings: Grazing boards, small bites, and dessert bars
Keep it simple and easy for guests to enjoy while mingling.
How Long Should a Baby Shower Last?
Most baby showers run two to three hours—enough time to eat, play games, open gifts, and celebrate without feeling rushed.
How Much Does a Baby Shower Cost?
Costs vary widely depending on location, catering, and décor. On average, showers range from $100 for simple at-home gatherings to $1,000+ for venue-based events. To save money:
Host at home or outdoors
DIY decorations and food
Use free printable games and signage (grab our [Free Baby Shower Game Pack]!)
What Do You Put on the Baby Registry?
A thoughtful registry ensures the parents receive what they truly need. Include:
Big-ticket items: crib, stroller, car seat
Everyday essentials: diapers, wipes, baby clothes
Nursery must-haves: bedding, monitor, nightlight
Be sure to mix price points so every guest can choose a gift that works for them.
Who Do You Invite to a Baby Shower?
Close family and friends are always included, but the guest list depends on the parents’ comfort level. Some prefer intimate gatherings; others enjoy larger celebrations. When in doubt, ask the parents-to-be for input to ensure no one special is left out.
Where Can You Host a Baby Shower?
Great baby shower venues include:
A family home (cozy and budget-friendly)
A restaurant or café with private space
A community hall or event space
Outdoors in a garden or park (weather permitting)
Virtually—perfect for long-distance families
Quick Recap: Baby shower etiquette today is flexible and personal. Focus on celebrating the parents and baby in a way that feels authentic and joyful—and don’t be afraid to break tradition.
Free Gift for You: Download our 44 Free Baby Shower Games Pack to make your event fun and memorable. [Grab it below →]
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